"To get the most support with the least likelihood of hurting the tree, you want to use fewer, bigger bolts (rather than a lot of smaller screws or nails). These are 1.25” diameter, 15” long galvanized lag bolts, 4 of which will bear the entire weight of the treehouse. In my case that total was roughly 1,000 pounds, a tiny fraction of what these bolts will hold. This is the general idea when putting kids at height: overbuild for safety."
You can "hang" a tree house on flexible, sturdy slings. These are more flexible in a storm and can be more easily adjusted to changes (and growth).
anyway, thanks for the explanation. what about if he tar-sealed the area where the bolts go in to prevent rot / fungus? also, i'm thinking the bolt itself would give support where the wood had been drilled out, similar to how such steel pieces are sometimes placed inside human bones to add support.