My reality: my wife is self-employed and thus she is working hard. So I get up 5:15 am in the morning, prepare breakfast for the family, work all day long "only in an office" come home, care for the kids, often make dinner, make dishes, bring kids to bed, and while my wife relaxes on the couch watching TV (cause she is working so hard). I do housework till 9 - 9:30 pm then I relax for about 1 hour and listen my wife complaining that she is the only one working so hard ...