I've never hit anyone in my life. I've never been verbally abusive to a partner. I've never committed any kind of crime against anyone. ...However, my mother beat me to the point of brain damage; she hit me harder than anyone else ever. I've had three girlfriends get physically violent with me. I've been stalked, robbed, and scammed by women. When I hear about women being 'victims of violence', my only thought is 'I wonder what she did to deserve it'? And I have a lifetime of reasons to think that. When are we going to hear about the equal or greater amount of abuse perpetrated by women?

Any kind on violence is wrong. Although, violence against women is much-much more common and therefore needs obvious attention. The fact that you tend to choose physically violent partners, like was your mother, is like straight out of any psychology and self aid book. It's the same with women, really. Some tend to choose a$$holes for partners. It is all about patterns of life. You need to break out. It is up to you, not the opposite sex. All they can do is say sorry.