"I learned this fairly early and once I hit that realization I became so much happier. I used to have terrible self-esteem issues, chronic anxiety, and a terrible eating disorder. Getting hospitalized bc of said disorder and getting into therapy lifted such a big weight off my shoulders as I began to realize that nobody’s opinion of me is worth it. It’s not worth me being unhappy, unhealthy, or even slightly bothered.
My biggest thought that helped me get over this is to realize that people don’t care or notice as much as you think they do. When you see someone trip do you think about it for the rest of the day and get stuck on how clumsy they are? No. So why would anyone notice if you’re clumsy? If you see someone with slightly crooked teeth do you notice? You probably don’t even think about it. Nobody is hung up on any of the flaws you see in yourself. Nobody notices your teeth or your weight or your clothes so why would you freak out about it?"
Allison790
#19 Won't argue against that thought but, I'm 81, married @19 to a girl I knew 3 months. It lasted until her death, 33 years later. Met up with a girl I dated in high school in1956. We have been married 26 years now.
Congratulations on such a long healthy marriage and Im sorry to hear about your wife. But one difference is that the older generation had a different lifestyle and different economy that could adapt to a married life at a early age. The time as come and gone.
I have no God, so this won't work for me
#19 Won't argue against that thought but, I'm 81, married @19 to a girl I knew 3 months. It lasted until her death, 33 years later. Met up with a girl I dated in high school in1956. We have been married 26 years now.
Congratulations on such a long healthy marriage and Im sorry to hear about your wife. But one difference is that the older generation had a different lifestyle and different economy that could adapt to a married life at a early age. The time as come and gone.
I have no God, so this won't work for me