Having a baby during the pandemic comes with its fair share of challenges but being a dad during this period can have advantages. For example, Bonisile and his partner are now both working from home, so they get to be super involved in bringing up Mihla. “It is great for bonding and predictability,” he said. “I know that tomorrow and the day after that there is a 90% chance I will be at home with my partner and child just shutting the whole world out.”

“We are young and always trying to take outside advice with a pinch of salt. We are defining our own parenting, challenging our cultures and taking in as much information as we can, and seeing how we can adapt that to our personalities. We don’t do 50-50. When I am 30, she is 70. We support each other and the child is a shared responsibility. We take turns with night duty, one day her and another day me.”

You can and should inhale as much relevant information as possible when you are becoming a parent, however, getting hands-on experience and then reflecting on it is the best way of building your skills and your confidence as a new father, and Bonisile is an excellent example of that.