"Don’t ever think it’s ok to “talk” to yourself in a manner you wouldn’t let another human being talk to you.
The biggest abuser I ever had in my life, was my constant companion: the thoughts in my head.
We often take care to choose our words when correcting a child or friend... but if anyone had talked to me, the way I talked to me for 30 straight years, I would have murdered them... and probably got away with it too.
Be nice to yourself, you’re the only you, you have."
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salamoon 3 year s ago
#34 at least there is this funny one in the sea of obvious and common ones....
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Billiewilhelm 3 year s ago
salamoon,
What is common and obvious for some may be invisible or hard to do for others.
And we all can use a remembering from time to time.
What is common and obvious for some may be invisible or hard to do for others.
And we all can use a remembering from time to time.
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Cilla 3 year s ago
#1 there are an awful lot of articles and compilations about being married and having kids...here's a shocker, if your kids are exhausting and tiresome, the problem is you, not them, if your marriage is dead ended and dull, same thing, because it's your marriage, too. Look to your own self before you start condemning the whole idea of having a family. Instead, you like to act like having a family is to be suffering 24 - 7. So keep pushing that narrative and teach the world a little more narcissism, because that's how you end up abandoned in a nursing home by family who's had enough of you. As for no family at all and telling yourself that's fine? Yeah, OK. Good luck with that. At the end, you die alone, clutching some nurses hand who is waiting for you to die or for her shift to end. If you think you'll be surrounded by 'friends' and they're your family? You're wrong. Family IS all that counts, not you, and you're an ignorant fool if you think otherwise. All you can hope for now is that they let your cats and Iphone attend your funeral.
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Billiewilhelm 3 year s ago
Cilla,
Not everyone needs or wants a family. Someone is not a fool if they want something different than you.
Not everyone needs or wants a family. Someone is not a fool if they want something different than you.
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Eph 3 year s ago
Cilla,
Cilla,
I call bs. You can find friends and be very close to them, like a family. You can have a sh#tty family or no family at all and still be happy. And you can live a happy life without having kids, no matter if you could not have kids or you chose not to.
Different people are different. If this is your opinion, Cilla, it's fine. But don't act like it's an universal truth.
Cilla,
I call bs. You can find friends and be very close to them, like a family. You can have a sh#tty family or no family at all and still be happy. And you can live a happy life without having kids, no matter if you could not have kids or you chose not to.
Different people are different. If this is your opinion, Cilla, it's fine. But don't act like it's an universal truth.
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Bazaleel 3 year s ago
Cilla,
Your work here is done. You have earned a blessed Sunday.
Your work here is done. You have earned a blessed Sunday.
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Ignatzio 3 year s ago
#2 Is possible but unlikely for the majority of people.
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Jennifer 3 year s ago
ah yes, empty phrases. i could tell the "source" just by reading the first post. reddit is full of smug people who have no idea about live. 
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Lonzo 3 year s ago
Jennifer, our mistake is in thinking that Reddit users are adults but the majority are preteens that think they have life figured out.
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Roy 3 year s ago
Everything becomes clear with hindsight. Meanwhile we must manage the best we can.
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Carmellia 3 year s ago
I can only add one to this good list of advice, travel the world. It is the most rewarding experience one can get.
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Phoebe 3 year s ago
Carmellia, how about camping in the backyard?
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Carmellia 3 year s ago
Phoebe,
Best family time ever. Roasted marshmallows, ghost stories and counting shooting stars.
Best family time ever. Roasted marshmallows, ghost stories and counting shooting stars.
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Petronella 3 year s ago
I shot the sheriff, but I did not shoot the deputy !
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Si 3 year s ago
#4 I have learend that apologising is merely a question of how you value the relationship to the person you apologize to. It is not a question wether you are right or wrong. Saved my marriage...
What is common and obvious for some may be invisible or hard to do for others.
And we all can use a remembering from time to time.
Not everyone needs or wants a family. Someone is not a fool if they want something different than you.
Cilla,
I call bs. You can find friends and be very close to them, like a family. You can have a sh#tty family or no family at all and still be happy. And you can live a happy life without having kids, no matter if you could not have kids or you chose not to.
Different people are different. If this is your opinion, Cilla, it's fine. But don't act like it's an universal truth.
Your work here is done. You have earned a blessed Sunday.
Best family time ever. Roasted marshmallows, ghost stories and counting shooting stars.