Started telling my mother NO, and stopped overplanning like she does. Easy to be disappointed when you have a complex plan in your head. Simplify and go with the flow is much healthier. I can't imagine going back to nightmare "gotta make everyone happy compromise" from my now " I'm not responsible for other people's happiness, just my own, they can chose to be happy on their own".
Started telling my mother NO, and stopped overplanning like she does. Easy to be disappointed when you have a complex plan in your head. Simplify and go with the flow is much healthier. I can't imagine going back to nightmare "gotta make everyone happy compromise" from my now " I'm not responsible for other people's happiness, just my own, they can chose to be happy on their own".
I've been doing that for years already. Saves a lot of time and money.
The idea came from the 1986 movie "the fly" with Jeff Goldblum.