"Last time I was asked on a date, we didn't even get to the actual date. We had arranged to go for coffee one afternoon, and that morning he sent me a message asking if we were still on. I replied yes, coffee was still on, and all was well. Then, half an hour or so later, I got another message asking yet again if I was still coming, and I replied yes again. He proceeded to send three more messages with the same question at similar intervals. To the last one, I responded that I was still planning on it, but the constant questioning was off-putting and beginning to make me reconsider. He cancelled the date and blocked me within minutes. His reasoning was that he'd been single for *months* and, therefore, could not contain himself."

"It's not a good sign if they don't have a single idea for what to do for your date. Deciding on a restaurant or a movie with your date is fine, as long as you know sort of what your plan is. Meeting up and being like 'What now?' is no good."

"I once went on a date with a man who took me to a bar where he claimed to be a regular who all the bartenders knew. The first red flag was that it was a pretty grimy bar, but I was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt. The bartenders did recognize him, however they seemed to be going out of their way to avoid him. As a server passed by, he reached out to physically grab her and she recoiled. It was just painful to watch, and I promptly excused myself and left. Obviously he didn’t treat staff with respect, and that’s a maaajor red flag for me."