"The push for personal vows – some people just aren’t comfortable sharing their raw emotions like that, or maybe they’re not great with words. We umm’d and ahh’d for a long time as to whether to do personal vows or not – my husband is ASD and found it to be a very intimidating prospect. I was fine either way, and we ended up writing short little speeches for each other (he wanted to in the end), but while we were deciding, any one we told were HORRIFIED that we might just be using *gasp* generic vows written by the *gag* celebrant."