Porn Ban
Watching adult material is not the best way to educate yourself about the expectations of sex. If it was I think a lot of us would be in trouble and wouldn’t know where to start. This films and videos are unrealistic and suggest fantasies rather than reality. Just take one step at a time and don’t think by watching a well-chosen movie that you will become an expert overnight; because if this was true you would also become the handy plumber that turns up on time or the handsome next door neighbor who needs a pint of milk!
Communicate
By boosting your confidence you also decrease your fears and anxiety. You can do this by educating yourself and developing your understanding, the best way to achieve this is to communicate. Being with a partner who is ready to take this journey with you can be very helpful, although communicating with them and discussing your next steps is crucial.
Even if you’re not with someone, your potential future sexual partner should embrace and respect the fact that this is your first time. Or if it’s not your first time it’s your first time with them, and don’t forget it’s their first time with you. These dynamics can be discussed and worked on before you do the deed. The special time is for both of you and if you can communicate between the two of you it will be a more pleasant experience for all.