I was supposed to be a bridesmaid in a wedding of a male friend. I had tried to befriend the bride because the groom was a childhood friend. All of the planning leading up to the big day was a total shit show, and she used our wedding chat to constantly discuss all of her problems with the groom (ring was too small, they never talked about finances before getting engaged and now she’s not sure he makes enough, can you get a prenup for children you don’t have yet? Constantly telling us we were bad friends – keep in mind we are all friends with the groom for many years before she was in the picture). I could write a novel about it. The final straw for me was when she asked me to plan a bachelorette party, but couldn’t tell me anything about what she was interested in doing (clubbing vs spa day vs beach trip etc.) other than “nothing too wild, but definitely cost effective,” and when I presented her with a plan, told me I was a terrible friend and that was the worst bachelorette plan she had ever seen. I was replaced as a bridesmaid, did not attend the wedding, and do not speak to either of them anymore. -notplus8