Stick to your guns, lady! Mother's are always sad when siblings 'fight' but this isn't a fight. This your brother being a whipped wuss and you need to draw the line for Princess Prude and her diva diet at some point. Your family doesn't revolve around her self important BS and her subsequent reactions on FB tell it all. You've done nothing wrong. You have a right to live your life how you want. It's time to say no, sit down, shut up, or get out and carry on however you wish.
Catering to actual allergies is fine; the allergic people can't help it (not talking about fashionably being "allergic" to gluten). Like the strawberry allergy OP has.
I say let the SIL simmer in her own self-righteousness for as long as it takes for her to stop being a hippie and trying whatever diet she thinks is cool. I'd say letting her bring whatever she wants because she's not happy with what you make is more than you should have to tolerate, so good on you for even allowing it! Let alone demanding you cook it.
The real intent for family get togethers is to have a good time and sometimes it requires a little flexibility. I would say something like "you are invited to Thanksgiving dinner. I will be cooking Turkey with dressing and green bean casserole. This year I am requesting that you bring a dish of your choice to share. You can either bring the completed dish or you are welcome to bring the ingredients and cook/make the dish here." Something like that - then no one feels like they're being singled out for being a pain.
Similar story in my family. My brother became veggy together with his GF, b*tching to me about it before I could've even commented. OP is totally right, tell that c#nt to go f@#k herself and move on with your life.
"Last week she sent me a text message that she is now on the fertility diet as they are starting IVF and sent me another list of foods that she cannot eat and a planned menu for me to cook for her."
Stick to your guns, lady! Mother's are always sad when siblings 'fight' but this isn't a fight. This your brother being a whipped wuss and you need to draw the line for Princess Prude and her diva diet at some point. Your family doesn't revolve around her self important BS and her subsequent reactions on FB tell it all. You've done nothing wrong. You have a right to live your life how you want. It's time to say no, sit down, shut up, or get out and carry on however you wish.
Catering to actual allergies is fine; the allergic people can't help it (not talking about fashionably being "allergic" to gluten). Like the strawberry allergy OP has.
I say let the SIL simmer in her own self-righteousness for as long as it takes for her to stop being a hippie and trying whatever diet she thinks is cool. I'd say letting her bring whatever she wants because she's not happy with what you make is more than you should have to tolerate, so good on you for even allowing it! Let alone demanding you cook it.
The real intent for family get togethers is to have a good time and sometimes it requires a little flexibility. I would say something like "you are invited to Thanksgiving dinner. I will be cooking Turkey with dressing and green bean casserole. This year I am requesting that you bring a dish of your choice to share. You can either bring the completed dish or you are welcome to bring the ingredients and cook/make the dish here." Something like that - then no one feels like they're being singled out for being a pain.
Similar story in my family. My brother became veggy together with his GF, b*tching to me about it before I could've even commented. OP is totally right, tell that c#nt to go f@#k herself and move on with your life.
I say let the SIL simmer in her own self-righteousness for as long as it takes for her to stop being a hippie and trying whatever diet she thinks is cool. I'd say letting her bring whatever she wants because she's not happy with what you make is more than you should have to tolerate, so good on you for even allowing it! Let alone demanding you cook it.
Take it or leave!
Before the day of the dinner, I ask which foods contain onions and don't eat them.
Some hosts, without me asking, prepare something different for me. But it's never a demand, it's their choice.
OP is totally right, tell that c#nt to go f@#k herself and move on with your life.