We asked Samantha to tell us about the whole ex-boyfriend situation: “So it’s not just all about him and he’s not the reason I had my surgery. When I actually got out of the relationship is when I realized that I could finally focus on myself. I was kept a secret by not just him, but other guys I’ve dated as well. Being a big girl, some guys only like you in private and that’s it. And that can really mess with someone’s confidence. So I dated him for about 2 years and never met any one of his friends or family members and we started to fade apart and he basically ghosted me and posted another girl on social media a few weeks later. This unfortunately isn’t the first time this has happened to me, though, with guys. And honestly, it affects my mindset in the dating world now. I am happy in a relationship, but those insecurities from the past sometimes make themselves present in my current relationship and that’s something I have to work on almost every single day.”