"In couples counseling, our therapist told us very bluntly that couples counseling only works if both people in the relationship are willing to make changes.
I went into therapy feeling like it was me vs him and he was gonna have all the work to do. Once she said that I realized that she was right. This is an US thing not a me vs him thing and no one was keeping score.
We both worked hard and now have one of the strongest relationships that I know. I couldn’t imagine my life without him and often think about how close we both were to ending things."