What was quite shocking followed later when Alisha started receiving various negative messages, degrading comments, and even threats. She was called ugly, fat, a slut, and a whore and even told to kill herself. Being a writer and having quite an active online presence, leaving social media wasn’t an option for her. Temporarily locking her media accounts still had her feeling quite uncomfortable, but what started as an innocent post for readers triggered irrationally angry people. So the sharing of the post turned into not only into debates about dating etiquette, but also what it means to post online and face the commentators.
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Brose 3 year s ago
#8 I am with Jake on this one. Feminism made Jake the way he is, why complain?
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Onnie 3 year s ago
Ugh...was he a d@#k human, yes, the polite thing would be to offer. Is she overreacting? Absolutely. Did she offer to buy coffees? Who asked who on the date? This makes a difference. Everyone, even me, needs to keep their opinions to themselves, no one gives a cr#p. LOL
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Tibbie 3 year s ago
I'm missing the part of the story that says, if she was asked, if she wanted anything other than coffee.
If the guy asked "What coffee do you want?" and nothing else and she told him the coffee and he did that cakepop thing, that's rude.
If he did in fact ask "Do you want anything to go with your coffee?" and she said "No" and then expected him to go against her express wish and read her mind over a cakepop, then the problem is on her side.
If the guy asked "What coffee do you want?" and nothing else and she told him the coffee and he did that cakepop thing, that's rude.
If he did in fact ask "Do you want anything to go with your coffee?" and she said "No" and then expected him to go against her express wish and read her mind over a cakepop, then the problem is on her side.
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Indie 3 year s ago
How to make a mountain out of a molehill 101
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Mira 3 year s ago
... sooo , what happened to equal treatment? Or may be you started acting like a real b*tch and guy decided to give you a hint after buying two cakes - get lost? Considering that you spilled all the beans all over the internet he got whiff of you being empty shell and leech.
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Willie 3 year s ago
lol those guys in here
she shared a funny story in a small twitter community and everbody goes batsh#t crazy.
it would be a strange behavior too with reversed roles. if she had bought two cake pops and ate them alone he would've felt awkward. this is not about gender, not about gender roles, so chill the f@#k down
she shared a funny story in a small twitter community and everbody goes batsh#t crazy.
it would be a strange behavior too with reversed roles. if she had bought two cake pops and ate them alone he would've felt awkward. this is not about gender, not about gender roles, so chill the f@#k down
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Mira 3 year s ago
Willie,
... in reverse - I'm buying beers for everybody and pistachios for me. I can't even fathom anyone going on instagram and start b*tching.
... in reverse - I'm buying beers for everybody and pistachios for me. I can't even fathom anyone going on instagram and start b*tching.
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Derrick 3 year s ago
Mira, yeah. Obviously not the same. You're comparing going out with a group of mates to a date. It's weird behaviour and you know it.
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Mira 3 year s ago
Derrick,
Oh, I see. Find 'em - Feed 'em - F@#k 'em - Forget 'em. FFFF-type arrangement.
Oh, I see. Find 'em - Feed 'em - F@#k 'em - Forget 'em. FFFF-type arrangement.
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Derrick 3 year s ago
Mira,
What does that even mean?
What does that even mean?
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Mira 3 year s ago
Derrick,
... suffering from Dunning–Kruger syndrome? Do you seriously expect me to fill abysmal void in your education here?
... suffering from Dunning–Kruger syndrome? Do you seriously expect me to fill abysmal void in your education here?
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Derrick 3 year s ago
Mira,
Yes... I'm sure everyone but me knows about this syndrome... You're right. That IS standard education... I was just sick the day they taught about syndromes in elementary school...
And yes, I'm OBVIOUSLY the type of person that finds a woman, gives her food, f@#ks her, and then moves on... It was clear from the start...
Anyway, your last comment proves I seriously have no hope matching your awesome intellect and keen insight. I'll leave this knowing I can never convince you your observations, doubtless gathered in many healthy relationships, are wrong.
Btw, you might discover you have a slight void in your English language skills when you reread your comments.
Yes... I'm sure everyone but me knows about this syndrome... You're right. That IS standard education... I was just sick the day they taught about syndromes in elementary school...
And yes, I'm OBVIOUSLY the type of person that finds a woman, gives her food, f@#ks her, and then moves on... It was clear from the start...
Anyway, your last comment proves I seriously have no hope matching your awesome intellect and keen insight. I'll leave this knowing I can never convince you your observations, doubtless gathered in many healthy relationships, are wrong.
Btw, you might discover you have a slight void in your English language skills when you reread your comments.
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Mira 3 year s ago
Derrick,
... hate to break your bubble, or piss on your parade, but english is one of six languages I speak, moreover just little suggestion - try to attach just three letters (PhD) to your name and you'll find out that its becoming problem of everybody else to understand what you said, not the other way around.
P.S. - my observations gathered after (almost) 45 years of marriage and seeing multitude of people's lives being ruined. dit dit
... hate to break your bubble, or piss on your parade, but english is one of six languages I speak, moreover just little suggestion - try to attach just three letters (PhD) to your name and you'll find out that its becoming problem of everybody else to understand what you said, not the other way around.
P.S. - my observations gathered after (almost) 45 years of marriage and seeing multitude of people's lives being ruined. dit dit
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Roberta 3 year s ago
Willie,
there's no such thing as reverse roles, thats like reverse racism
there's no such thing as reverse roles, thats like reverse racism
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Quilla 3 year s ago
Roberta, agreed. racism is not confined to only one color. Anyone of Any color can be racist. When you are beaten down everyday because you are a man, and have no father figure from which to learn, and all the media shows is Homer Simpson as a father figure it's no wounder man act the way they do.
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Martin 3 year s ago
Quilla, uh, no. Men are “beaten down” because of sh#tty behavior. Learn the difference. This lady made a simple comment and both men and women lost their minds over it. And she’s right, he was inconsiderate. Since everyone keeps bringing up feminists, they are asking only to be treated fairly in life. Basic manners still apply to everyone. Why is that such a hard concept for men?
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Jock 3 year s ago
Twitter is full of nothing but whiny Twats
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Jehu 3 year s ago
Maybe the guy wasn't interested at all, meh just another shag, and all of the sudden he's put against the impossible perfect and biased image about men, of some random bird met on tinder, or whatever. Maybe the guy liked sweets, or he was a real @$$hole, she didn't stay long to find out after "tHe rED fLaG". People are sooo f@#king stupid! 
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Serene 3 year s ago
I'm an old school guy and even I think the guy was lame for doing that. But my immediate assumption is that either 1) he didn't have any time or emotions invested in her so he just to see how she would respond for or 2) he had zero social skills and couldn't understand the ramifications. yeah I'm old and I can tell you stuff like this just didn't happen "back in the day" - this is a symptom of a messed up society - but whatever - I'll get thumbs down from some people and I really don't care LOL.
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Cordy 3 year s ago
Serene,
I'm probably an older-school guy than you, and I agree this kinda cr#p would have never happened in the '50s or '60s. I've watched the whole thing happen; it's undeniable that this lack of respect for each other is the direct result of "feminism" and its relentless teaching that Wimmin Is Victims. Boys exposed to that poison learned to resent girls by the time puberty came along, while girls learned that they weren't responsible for anything.
The way boys and girls, even in their 50's, treat each other is shocking in its level of resentment.
I'm probably an older-school guy than you, and I agree this kinda cr#p would have never happened in the '50s or '60s. I've watched the whole thing happen; it's undeniable that this lack of respect for each other is the direct result of "feminism" and its relentless teaching that Wimmin Is Victims. Boys exposed to that poison learned to resent girls by the time puberty came along, while girls learned that they weren't responsible for anything.
The way boys and girls, even in their 50's, treat each other is shocking in its level of resentment.
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Martin 3 year s ago
Cordy, how on earth can you blame feminism for some man’s sh#tty behavior? He’s a grown adult who makes his own decisions. Absolutely unbelievable. Men will never get it because they simply don’t want to change the status quo and treat women like human beings.
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Lazar 3 year s ago
If she was bothered about it, why didn't she just ask him during the date. Maybe he has diabetes and his blood sugar was low.
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Bridie 3 year s ago
As per usual, the misogynists and incels are out in force with their predictable "feminism bad!!!" rants 
The simple fact of the matter is that this guy is on a date and presented himself as an inconsiderate, selfish a-hole. Nothing to do with feminism, gender roles, equality, etc - it's simply about manners and thoughtfulness. If I - as a male - had a woman do this to me on a date, I would be thankful for the early red flag/indicator of character, then ditch her and be promptly on my way.
The simple fact of the matter is that this guy is on a date and presented himself as an inconsiderate, selfish a-hole. Nothing to do with feminism, gender roles, equality, etc - it's simply about manners and thoughtfulness. If I - as a male - had a woman do this to me on a date, I would be thankful for the early red flag/indicator of character, then ditch her and be promptly on my way.
If the guy asked "What coffee do you want?" and nothing else and she told him the coffee and he did that cakepop thing, that's rude.
If he did in fact ask "Do you want anything to go with your coffee?" and she said "No" and then expected him to go against her express wish and read her mind over a cakepop, then the problem is on her side.
she shared a funny story in a small twitter community and everbody goes batsh#t crazy.
it would be a strange behavior too with reversed roles. if she had bought two cake pops and ate them alone he would've felt awkward. this is not about gender, not about gender roles, so chill the f@#k down
... in reverse - I'm buying beers for everybody and pistachios for me. I can't even fathom anyone going on instagram and start b*tching.
Oh, I see. Find 'em - Feed 'em - F@#k 'em - Forget 'em. FFFF-type arrangement.
What does that even mean?
... suffering from Dunning–Kruger syndrome? Do you seriously expect me to fill abysmal void in your education here?
Yes... I'm sure everyone but me knows about this syndrome... You're right. That IS standard education... I was just sick the day they taught about syndromes in elementary school...
And yes, I'm OBVIOUSLY the type of person that finds a woman, gives her food, f@#ks her, and then moves on... It was clear from the start...
Anyway, your last comment proves I seriously have no hope matching your awesome intellect and keen insight. I'll leave this knowing I can never convince you your observations, doubtless gathered in many healthy relationships, are wrong.
Btw, you might discover you have a slight void in your English language skills when you reread your comments.
... hate to break your bubble, or piss on your parade, but english is one of six languages I speak, moreover just little suggestion - try to attach just three letters (PhD) to your name and you'll find out that its becoming problem of everybody else to understand what you said, not the other way around.
P.S. - my observations gathered after (almost) 45 years of marriage and seeing multitude of people's lives being ruined. dit dit
there's no such thing as reverse roles, thats like reverse racism
I'm probably an older-school guy than you, and I agree this kinda cr#p would have never happened in the '50s or '60s. I've watched the whole thing happen; it's undeniable that this lack of respect for each other is the direct result of "feminism" and its relentless teaching that Wimmin Is Victims. Boys exposed to that poison learned to resent girls by the time puberty came along, while girls learned that they weren't responsible for anything.
The way boys and girls, even in their 50's, treat each other is shocking in its level of resentment.
The simple fact of the matter is that this guy is on a date and presented himself as an inconsiderate, selfish a-hole. Nothing to do with feminism, gender roles, equality, etc - it's simply about manners and thoughtfulness. If I - as a male - had a woman do this to me on a date, I would be thankful for the early red flag/indicator of character, then ditch her and be promptly on my way.