After going on a first date with a guy to a cafe, Alisha decided to share what happened on her Twitter account
The viral Tweet explained the situation of Alisha meeting a man for a coffee, him asking her what she would like to drink, and bringing over the order. He also came back with two cake pops, which Alisha thought was quite cute. But what happened next was that the guy ate them both in front of her. Alisha finished the tweet with what she possibly wanted to be a comic rhetorical question, about the guy being a monster.
As her date went to get the coffee, he also came back with two Valentine’s Day-themed cake pops, which he then ate by himself in front of her without even offering
Little did she know how much attention the post would rake in. It got 339.2k likes and was retweeted over 24k times. The avalanche of comments following the infamous tweet was even more astounding, bringing everything from support and sympathy to insults and threats and overall starting an international discussion about dating etiquette.
The tweet explaining the incident and Alisha’s disappointment during the first date went viral with nearly 340k likes
The post spread through different media outlets, making appearances on TV. Alisha soon realized that the discussion had escalated so much that the cake pops had become an analogy for kindness and courtesy. As for Alisha, comments from online communities ranged from her being too sensitive, to calling her a gold digger and even pointing her out as the reason why modern dating is so hard.
Alisha couldn’t believe what happened and how the guy made her feel with his behavior on the first date
The online debates were quite fierce about whether or not the guy’s behavior was a red flag. Many people found the incident funny and relatable, so they shared similar stories, some agreed that this wasn’t the most thoughtful behavior from the guy on a first date, and some people actually considered Alisha’s expectations too high. On Hoda & Jenna’s show on Today, the tweet was also discussed where the two ladies highlighted how it’s rude not to offer what you are eating and share with the other person.
Alisha’s tweet made it to Today’s show hosted by Hoda & Jenna, where the ladies agreed that not sharing is a definite ‘don’t’
Following the debates her tweet sparked about dating etiquette, Alisha also expressed her thoughts about the negative feedback she started to receive
Also coincidentally, the story echoed Alisha’s new book Girl Gone Viral, which tells a story about a woman whose private conversation with a stranger goes online and she is forced to hide. Just what Alisha wasn’t ready for was the hate she received. She also tweeted regarding the angry feedback she received: “Truly, there is nothing a woman can go viral for that will not result in an avalanche of misogyny, not even a facetious tweet. About dessert etiquette.”
What was quite shocking followed later when Alisha started receiving various negative messages, degrading comments, and even threats. She was called ugly, fat, a slut, and a whore and even told to kill herself. Being a writer and having quite an active online presence, leaving social media wasn’t an option for her. Temporarily locking her media accounts still had her feeling quite uncomfortable, but what started as an innocent post for readers triggered irrationally angry people. So the sharing of the post turned into not only into debates about dating etiquette, but also what it means to post online and face the commentators.
And here is how some other internet users reacted to Alisha’s post and you can share your opinion below
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If the guy asked "What coffee do you want?" and nothing else and she told him the coffee and he did that cakepop thing, that's rude.
If he did in fact ask "Do you want anything to go with your coffee?" and she said "No" and then expected him to go against her express wish and read her mind over a cakepop, then the problem is on her side.
she shared a funny story in a small twitter community and everbody goes batsh#t crazy.
it would be a strange behavior too with reversed roles. if she had bought two cake pops and ate them alone he would've felt awkward. this is not about gender, not about gender roles, so chill the f@#k down
... in reverse - I'm buying beers for everybody and pistachios for me. I can't even fathom anyone going on instagram and start b*tching.
Oh, I see. Find 'em - Feed 'em - F@#k 'em - Forget 'em. FFFF-type arrangement.
What does that even mean?
... suffering from Dunning–Kruger syndrome? Do you seriously expect me to fill abysmal void in your education here?
Yes... I'm sure everyone but me knows about this syndrome... You're right. That IS standard education... I was just sick the day they taught about syndromes in elementary school...
And yes, I'm OBVIOUSLY the type of person that finds a woman, gives her food, f@#ks her, and then moves on... It was clear from the start...
Anyway, your last comment proves I seriously have no hope matching your awesome intellect and keen insight. I'll leave this knowing I can never convince you your observations, doubtless gathered in many healthy relationships, are wrong.
Btw, you might discover you have a slight void in your English language skills when you reread your comments.
... hate to break your bubble, or piss on your parade, but english is one of six languages I speak, moreover just little suggestion - try to attach just three letters (PhD) to your name and you'll find out that its becoming problem of everybody else to understand what you said, not the other way around.
P.S. - my observations gathered after (almost) 45 years of marriage and seeing multitude of people's lives being ruined. dit dit
there's no such thing as reverse roles, thats like reverse racism
I'm probably an older-school guy than you, and I agree this kinda cr#p would have never happened in the '50s or '60s. I've watched the whole thing happen; it's undeniable that this lack of respect for each other is the direct result of "feminism" and its relentless teaching that Wimmin Is Victims. Boys exposed to that poison learned to resent girls by the time puberty came along, while girls learned that they weren't responsible for anything.
The way boys and girls, even in their 50's, treat each other is shocking in its level of resentment.
The simple fact of the matter is that this guy is on a date and presented himself as an inconsiderate, selfish a-hole. Nothing to do with feminism, gender roles, equality, etc - it's simply about manners and thoughtfulness. If I - as a male - had a woman do this to me on a date, I would be thankful for the early red flag/indicator of character, then ditch her and be promptly on my way.