"Let herself in my sidedoor, after we had broken up, sat on my bed in silence, waited for me to wake up, just staring at me in the dark. I was so terrified, not knowing who it was, my adrenaline went off and i pushed her off the bed and across the room. She said “I’m sorry.. I’m sorry,” and let herself out. I’ve locked the door every night since. This was 3 years ago."
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That is something I will never understand.
There is this thing called infatuation - it is like a drug that makes people almost unable to find minor faults with each other until it is over, it can last for between 1 and 3 years. All the redflags are obvious in hindsight or from neutral observers perspective, also if someone was burned previously they will learn to spot the early signs out of necessity.