So set up.

yeah, he never done some "unchristian" things in his life ... like the whole church: preach water, drink wine ...

My parents lied consistently to me too. I left school and started worked at 14 because we were so poor and the family needed money. I missed any opportunity to get an education when I was young until I was in my mid 30s. Turns out the f@#kers were really quite wealthy, just had an aversion to feeding their kids and generally spending money. I used to give my mother 2/3rds of my wage just to help out. My father died late last year. His proudest boast was that he never spent a penny of his wages he earned after he retired from the forces aged 36. I realized how I'd been taken for a fool in my late 20's and cut it off with them.