"Give kids 2 choices instead of letting them pick from whatever you control. Could be 2 points of time. like "now" or in 10 minutes, or do you want the red or the blue shirt on things like that works wonderfully. they feel in control, but have absolutely no control. can work with some adults too"
He said when his wife is talking to someone. Her conversation. Not as in the husband is looking to his wife for answers or approval.