"Making people think that you need them is always better than asking them to simply do something for you.
i.e: instead of saying: "Can you do this for me?" you should say: "Listen I need you help; I can't do this."
Makes people feel good about themselves and even like you on a deeper level."
He said when his wife is talking to someone. Her conversation. Not as in the husband is looking to his wife for answers or approval.