"If you're trying to pick out dinner with your partner, rather than ask, 'What do you want?' and getting the typical 'I don't know, anything' answer and then having suggestions shot down, start with, 'What do you NOT want? Used it a few times in some of my relationships, and it's the godsend question"
He said when his wife is talking to someone. Her conversation. Not as in the husband is looking to his wife for answers or approval.