"When it´s hard to convince someone to do something: give them options. That way they feel like they´re in control. “You could do A or do you prefer B?”"
"I use that trick on my kids all the time. Especially when it comes to food.
“Do you want chicken or steak?”
Otherwise, if I just ask her what she wants for dinner she’ll just say “cookies”."
You are very smart to understand that!
Btw, could I borrow a pen?
And I might have a ... small request later for you.
I like the way you responded to that.