“Giving a friend’s child (10 yo) an illusion of choice to get them to do something you want them to do. So instead of saying “put your socks on”, say “do you want these socks, or these ones”. Or same for dinner. Not “Eat your dinner”. Ask, “do you want peas or brocolli?” They feel ownership of their choice and some control in their life. Kids in general, have very little control over their lives and they need practice to make decisions.”