"I saw a healthy relationship and finally understood how screwed my own was with my fiance at the time.

I flew out to meet my newborn nephew, and saw how attentive and caring my brother and sister-in-law were to one another, amidst sleep deprivation and learning to keep a tiny human alive. I realized my own partner would be raising his voice, flipping out, or be completely checked out and leaving all the work to me, if I ever got pregnant.

It was funny because at that point, most people in my family had tried to get me to see the light about my relationship, and what it actually took was seeing a solid example of a healthy marriage."