“When they are comfortable being silly or goofy. Thats truly a sign that they are comfortable in their own skin and not trying to be someone they arent.”
“Can admit when they’re wrong. Most people I come across either double down or immediately try to make it somebody else’s fault when they mess up. I have a lot of respect for someone who can admit fault.”
“When someone remembers small details you mentioned weeks ago and brings them up casually. Means they’ve genuinely been paying attention!”
“I have a friend who I like to call “aggressively inclusive.” One thing I notice he does pretty often is make sure that the quiet one in a group is given the opportunity to speak. And he’s **crazy good** at recognizing when they have something to say.”
“When they are comfortable with animals, and notice their presence. As a pet lover, I consider it a major green flag.”
“If they go along with bits, jokes and quips. The longer we can run it into the ground the better.”
“Curiosity about everything. Specific example that comes to mind. When you mention a song or band they’re not familiar with and they immediately play it without being asked or suggested.”
“Pacifism behind the wheel. It seems small yet it can tell me so much about a person if they have the ability to brush off other people being a-holes on the road. And I don’t mean just brushing it off and maybe saying your own snide remark inside the safety of your car, but having no desire to engage in road rage at all.”
“Telling me odd science facts in the middle of a normal conversation.”
“They don’t leave their shopping cart abandoned in the middle of the parking lot like a monster.”
“Dark or self deprecating humor. You’ve gotta be able to laugh at yourself.”
“In college there were a group of headed to a party. One us dropped whatever trash he was carrying on the sidewalk. She hung back, picked it up and dropped it in the nearest trash receptacle. That was more than 30 years ago, i haven’t been on contact with any of them, but this act really has stuck out all these years.”
“People who stay rational in tense situations.”
“They think going to the bookstore is a great idea for a date.”
“When my now-husband and I were first together, I went to stay at his flat overnight. He knew I had a problem with motor control and was terrified of breaking his crockery, so he bought me a special plastic plate and mug. It was so simple and generous that I knew he was someone special. We’ve been married 5 years and I use that plate daily.”
“My partner sent me a 28 seconds long video of a snail in the rain he came across when we were still early in our dating stage. It was so cute and innocent.
If someone can get excited for these little things I think it’s a massive green flag.”
“They’re inclusive? I think that’s the word im looking for. Most people will comment on the odd behavior of people around them, but someone special will make the person feel normal or defend them for doing it.”
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