This conversation perfectly proves how fragile the self-worth of a typical nice guy really is. He sees rejection as an attack against himself, so he frames things in a way where he won’t feel the sting, should one come.
“Nice guys don’t clarify their intent. They tap dance around the subject hoping to get lucky,” writer Niki Marinis said. “They’re flirting with you unless you’re not OK with that and then they totally weren’t. They’re desperate to avoid accountability for their choices. They have no confidence that you’ll say yes so they feel they have a better shot if they trick you, or drop bread crumbs.”
“They want to be vague so if you don’t like what they’re offering then they never meant it that way so it’s not their fault that you read them wrong. But if you DO like what they’re offering then that’s what they meant all along and aren’t they oh-so-clever and charming for it?”
Sorry, Keegan, but calling yourself a nice guy doesn’t necessarily make you nice. Nor does cussing people out. Better luck next time.