"They will get hurt and sometimes you have to let it happen. I hate it"
"Your kid isn’t giving you a hard time. THEY are having a hard time"
"You are not their friend (you are their parent), you will mess up but love and kisses are very important at every age"
"Picking your battles. Does it really matter if your kid wears mismatched socks? Is it really a big deal if they wear a princess dress to go grocery shopping? Those are minor things that absolutely do not make a difference in the long run. Let it go and life is easier for you both."
"I am not less of a mother on bad days."
"WORST part of parenting: figuring out what the f@#k to make for dinner EVERY. SINGLE. NIGHT. I hate it so much. But if I don’t feed them, they’ll die, so that’s lame."
"Their kids might not have anything in common with them or turn out differently than expected. I see a lot of parents who are surprised when they struggle to connect with their child or something hard pops up. So many small things can be huge stressors to kids and become gigantic, time consuming concerns for parents."
"Parents need to do their part when their child is struggling in school. We can only do so much in 8 hours. If parents want results faster then they need to commit."
"They are not you – now say it again 10 times."
"That you aren’t raising kids. They are already are kids. You are raising adults, hopefully competent adults. Competent adults who know how to be an adult."
"You have to parent the kid you have, not the one you want"
"They (the kids) need to make mistakes."
"You’re there to guide, not control. Even when they are doing it wrong."
"If you still have baggage or trauma that’s not dealt with, you and your kids will suffer for it."
"You’re gonna feel like you’re failing constantly…you’re not, not in the slightest, but you’ll feel like it"
"You’re going to constantly second guess decisions, and feel guilty for things on a regular basis."
"Consistency"
"You get to choose how to love your kids, how to teach your kids, and how you’re going to f@#k up with your kids. Choose wisely as all are inevitable."
"At some point, around age 12 or 13, it will seem like they genuinely hate you and they will be incredibly unpleasant to deal with. It passes, but it is rough when you are in the middle of it. You have to weather it with patience and grace (and consequences when warranted) because it is only a stage."