Once I was sitting outside with a guy and he saw this little beetle bug on its back waving its legs in the air. He grabbed a leaf and put it right side up.
He brought one of his dog’s toys over as a gift for my dog. She had died the year before and he had a little area for her stuff still in his apt. She was his best friend.When I saw him pull it out, my heart sunk. My dog still loves that toy, keeps it in his bed. I think about that gesture a lot and how much it meant to him and me.
This actually just happened to me last week! On a 10 hour flight back to the US, two empty seats between me and this Italian man who doesn’t speak any English. After trying to get comfortable we make eye contact and he motions for me to lay on the empty seats between us. Trying to be polite I declined but eventually I caved and laid down I was so exhausted. My airline blanket was only big enough to cover my legs so I cross my arms to keep warm. Italian man takes his blanket and drapes it over me. I wanted to cry it was the sweetest thing a stranger has done for me.
When I first started dating my now husband, I got my period at his house for the first time and he already had a pack of the correct size and brand tampons waiting under the sink for me. He never asked what kind I used and we never discussed him getting me tampons. He just took note of the kind in my bathroom and bought some extras on his own.It was a small gesture that made a huge impact.
Showing incidental integrity and respect towards a random person they don’t even know and will never see again.
My ex took himself very seriously and couldn't bear to do something that might make him look silly. When I met my current partner his daughter was 5 years old and that man would do any old goofy thing to get a laugh out of her. Funny dances, weird faces, making up little nonsense songs, animal impressions, you name it. I clocked that willingness to put self-consciousness aside to make his little girl giggle and it endeared him so much to me
Manners, a man with good manners. Not even big things, but hiding or opening the door, being polite to staff in stores or shops, saying please and thank you, and just noticing things. It's an instance hit for me.
His place is 15 mins from my place. He always, without fail, used to give me something to munch on - a fruit or snack, for the drive back to my place.
He showed the smallest amount of kindness to me and I fell hard lol. Shared his food with me, opened things for me, told me to be self-confident, and just generally made me smile when we were together. I didn’t think much of the guy when we first met but after all that he was the most beautiful thing I’d ever seen lol. I’m not sure I’ll ever feel that way about someone again.
My husband will go out of his way to pick the cat up at any time and he fully settles her so her little front legs hang down over his arm like a jaguar in a tree. She looks so cute and comfy and he just pets and loves on her (all the while saying how much he hates cats). They’re just so cute together and I love seeing his genuine affection for her even if every word out of his mouth is him lying and saying he hates cats.
He listened to hear me not just to respond, I have never felt seen and heard like that before.
My boyfriend and I were taking a flight for our first trip together very early on in our relationship. While going through airport security I observed him helping out a frazzled lady struggling with an infant. His observation of her struggle, empathy for her situation and the way he helped out like it was the most obvious thing to do really made him shine. He’s now the father of my toddler and we have another one on the way :).
I have one male coworker in my office and he always goes to pick up orders, carry the heavy supplies around, you name it. One day he offers to run to the store to get a sandwich for a coworker that was complaing she didn't even have time to eat...And its someone who doesn't even like the guy, badmouths him every chance she gets- so I ask him whyyy is he going out of his way to do something nice for someone who clearly doesn't even like him?His answer floored me - Because a real man takes care of the people around him, regardless if he is friends with them or not. I def stopped seeing him as simply doormat-nice.
"I know the conversation derailed a bit but you were in the middle of telling a story, can I hear the rest?"I fell for him hard and fast. No one had ever made me feel heard that way.
On an early hike with my guy, he stopped to pick up litter on the trail. It wasn't showy or performative. He just likes to leave the world better than he found it. It was so endearing.
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