"By learning that anxious thoughts actually don’t need to be explored. I used to ruminate and obsess over my worst anxieties/fears, but all that did was teach my brain that it’s a valid fear by constantly worrying about it. Now when I have an anxious thought, i’m like cool bro, but you’re just a thought and you have no power over me. I’m safe. And then eventually the fear/worry/obsession goes away, because you’re teaching your brain that it’s not really a big deal after all.
edit: i just want to say thank you for the awards!! i didn’t expect my comment to blow up like this, but i’m so happy my words have been able to help so many people :)."
"Getting a dog."
"Saying no without over-explaining. Once I stopped feeling guilty for protecting my time and energy, everything got lighter. Wish I’d learned that boundary-setting wasn’t rude way earlier."
"Walking away from my toxic family."
"Getting good with being single.
It's a powerful position to be in. Now the only people in my life are the ones I want in my life; not people I'm settling for our of fear of being alone."
"Quitting smoking. I smoked for 46 years and quit 13 years ago. Too many negatives to list and too many positives to list."
"Moving abroadI used to be such a bitter a*****e, but since I've moved, I've calmed down. I have money, good relationship with coworkers ava just overall I feel more optimistic."
"Deleting instagram. Its not real."
"Make a budget. Not a spreadsheet that you look at sometimes. A real, check at least once per day, budget."
"Going for a walk in nature every morning."
"Going to the gym."
"Reading."
"Buying an eye mask for sleeping."
"Eliminated my debts.
My disposable income jumped dramatically, though it took years of hard work.I will never ever do that again."
"Leaving a dismissive avoidant partner and working on my own attachment issues. Our best investment is in us. Don't abandon yourself."
"Adding a bidet toilet seat to our toilet."
"Healing my childhood trauma"
"Stopped acting like a doormat..that everybody could wipe their feet on."
"A good Mattress topper ."
"Setting boundaries and no longer being a people pleaser!"
"Finally losing weight."
"Going to bed on time."
"Listening to White noises
It ain't talked about often but listening to white noises helps you sleep better, helps with anxieties, helps you focuses more it's just cheat code for your brain."
"Spending my money on me instead of trying to maximize investments. I'm glad I used to do that, but that phase of my life is done."
"Therapy and medication."
"Marrying into money."
"Remembering who you are, what you like and what you want out of life and not compromising yourself for the sake of others.
If relationships are two individual rocks that continuously press against each other and crack each other soon enough you won't remember the core of yourself. Slowly you chip away at yourself to fit into someone else's life or try to fit their image of you until you don't recognize yourself or you are a shell of what you once was. That strong individual rock is just a shell or a pebble of you.
So, life isn't worth going through such experiences , there are other rocks out there that will fit right into and next to your rock without those hardships.
Remember your core and stay true to yourself."
"Divorce."
"Stop working more than 40 hours a week."
"Hate to admit it but running before work.
Not giving a f**k is a very close second."
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Please don't do adhd 'meds' because that's poisonous shit. Sports, meditation, breathing techniques, nature walks, therapy could all be part of the help you need. Ahdh meds will only make you an addict and will not give you the help u need.
Some people are prone to addiction, and some aren’t. Adderall is a miracle medicine for those with ADHD, like myself.
spoken like someone without adhd
1) marry into money
2) walk away from toxic family
3) divorce
4) be single
5) eliminate debt