"Never evaluate your life when you’re tired.
This is so true. Ever notice things seem much worse at night when worries seem at their worst? The next morning your brain can think of ways to fix them and most times they aren’t there the next day."
"I cannot control other people’s actions."
"Pretend you are your own child. Weird concept, but hear me out. That negative self-talk that’s beating you down – would you speak to a child like that? What would you say to your inner child if someone told them they were an idiot or were fat or were useless or unloved?
Practice a little kindness toward yourself. I’m trying really hard to do this & this concept helps me extend compassion toward myself."
"It’s okay to not react to every bad memory that loves to resurface in your brain on the daily. it takes a bit of practice but if you try, you can let those bad/embarrassing/cringey memories just wash up and over you instead of hitting you
like a tidal wave."
"Don’t take criticism from someone you wouldn’t take advice from.."
"If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing it badly. If you can’t handle doing it perfectly just finish it, [email protected]$$ it at least: if you can’t groom yourself due to depression, at least brush your teeth."
"On the topic of self-care: it should be habit or a discipline, not an indulgence. If that’s all you have time for, that’s okay, but we often treat self-care like a little cheating moment, something away from the normal world.
Doing things that are good for our mental health should be a regular thing, like brushing teeth and drinking water."
"Some days you must go through the motions and fake it till you make it. My son (M-preteen) suffers from depression and online school is tough for him (he is a gifted student performing 3-5 grades above age) so some days his funk is profound. Getting up sitting through the class at a desk even if ignoring the content makes the difference.
I always tell him this: If you can’t fly, run. If you can’t run, walk. If you can’t walk, crawl. If you can’t crawl, I will carry you until you can."
"I was taught it as if you wanna do something negative for example, stay home, or do self-harm, do the OPPOSITE of it. Go out and enjoy a walk or hang with friends. Instead of harming, draw on urself. To this day I live by that."
"“Run the dishwasher twice.”
To put it simply, someone had revealed to their therapist that they felt really cr#ppy about not having the energy to hand wash their dishes. The therapist suggested that they just put their dishes through the dishwasher twice. They point out that you’re not really supposed to do that, but the therapist essentially shrugs and goes “who says you can’t? you don’t need to follow all these little rules”
In short, you don’t need to follow arbitrary rules, just complete tasks in whatever way is easiest for you. You can follow rules when you have the mental energy to do so."
"The validation you seek from others is validation you refuse to give yourself."
"Remember you’re more than you give yourself credit for.
There are people that might super focused on their jobs and feel like that’s what their whole life is about. Try to remember that you are also a friend, a family member, etc. There are so many different aspects which make up who we are. It’s important to remember this, especially when one aspect of our life begins to cause us distress."
“If you can’t beat the fear, just do it scared.”
"‘One day at a time.’ honestly.
When I scale-out any plans to weeks/months/years, all I see is that barely any progress is being made, so I end up quitting altogether. Now I just take most things as they come, do what I do for the day and stop getting stuck on overall progress, trusting that I’ll get there in the end.
It’s less things on my mind which has been wonderful for an over-thinker like myself."
"Nobody has this [email protected]#t figured out. Do your best and wing it like the rest of us. It kinda made me feel like the feeling of being lost and unsure of what to do next was normal."
"Figure out who you are and where you want to be before trying to get into a relationship. This after a divorce. Happily married now. Much better place emotionally too."
"It is okay to seek professional help.
I mean, if you had some sickness or pain that wouldn’t go away, what would you do? You’d go to the doctor and take care of that [email protected]#t. Get some medicine. Advice. A plan to deal with it moving forward.
Yet for some reason there’s a reluctance or a stigma around people doing the same with their mental health. Oh, you’re in therapy? Oh, you’re struggling with substance abuse? Oh, you’re on medications for mental problems? We’re not supposed to talk about that! “I went to my podiatrist today” is fine but not “I went to my psychiatrist today” for some reason.
If you’re not feeling mentally okay, then go to the doctor that handles that sort of thing. Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed for seeking professional help. That’s what it’s there for."
"If you have any pearls of wisdom to help keep us all sane, please do share in the comments"